For many years I have asked moms to identify the most important people in their lives that they are responsible for taking care of. The results were often the same. I would ask the question: “Tell me what number you are on the list?” A look of shock would appear on their faces as they would exclaim: “I’m not on the list!”
If you are a mom, chances are you are also the nurturer, doctor, nurse, teacher, chauffer, cook, house keeper, homework helper, laundry specialist, cheerleader, disciplinarian, and many more roles. WOW! You may be saying to yourself: “No wonder I am exhausted!”
January is a time for new beginnings and clean slates. When we think of New Year’s resolutions we tend to think of commitments to exercise more, eat better, get organized and stick to a budget. But the New Year is also a terrific time to start a daily ritual that can have a dramatic impact on you and your family life: making your self-care the #1 priority.
Self-care is often confused with selfishness. When individuals take care of themselves ahead of the needs of others, people may refer to them as being selfish. How can we take care of others if we are running on empty? Think about the safety announcement in airplanes. We are advised to put on our oxygen masks before putting the masks on our children. We need to take care of ourselves first so we can be better parents, spouses, friends and employees.
Thousands of moms ignore their own needs every day. Who has time for a bubble bath, anyway? We all know that a little self-care and some TLC is what’s “good” for us and yet most of us never get around to doing anything about it and end up running on “empty” day after day.
Parenting is an activity that is improved by self-care. Here are just a few benefits you will experience when you choose to make your self-care priority #1 this year:
- Less stress, frustration and better temper control
- Take better care of your children, family and loved ones
- Set a great example as a role model for your children and loved ones
- You’ll be re-energized to face each new day in your role as a parent
Make 2015, the year you take action to refill and replenish your personal well being. The amount of time required to care for your self is less important than the fact that you take time and how you spend that time. Whether it is daily, one hour a week, or half-a-day twice a month, or even one weekend a month, the time should be set aside for taking care of yourself. Take the time to take care for yourself.
Listed below are some hints and tips for taking care of your personal well being physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually:
- 8 hours sleep
- Take time to relax
- Spend time with friends
- Listen to music
- Read a book
- Pampering (manicure, pedicure, massage, etc.)
- Take a nap
- Bubble bath
- Buy yourself some flowers
- Say “no”
- Have a girls night out
- Go to a movie not “G” rated
- Do something creative
- Try something new
- Treat yourself to something
- Give yourself permission to do something that fuels your spirit
Self-care is the key to living a rich and full-filling life. What better way to begin 2015 than to put yourself first on the list.
If you would like to learn more about taking time for yourself, creating more harmony in your home and living a life that truly lights you up, then join us in a workshop for women on January 24, 2015. Space is limited! Reserve your spot today at http://anewyearanewyou.paulasacco.com.